New Coaching Model, Better Support

Romantic partnerships come with unique gifts and burdens. On top of that, gay relationships tend to carry additional cultural scars. When we feel loved, we may struggle to accept it. Our defenses about masculinity and sex live just beneath the surface of our skin, flaring when we feel most vulnerable. We may rather feel justified in our defenses than, without them, risk being exposed for our tenderness. 

As well, solo men often tell me that they've just resigned themselves to a series of failed relationships and that maybe love just isn't in the cards for them. This belief, too, can become a defense, a posture, a way of walking in the world that says: "I have never been able to rely on anyone, so fuck trying."

Try on the idea that our most cherished defenses can be softened and dropped...That our partners are only showing us where we need to grow...Or that an ended relationship isn't necessarily one that has "failed."

In fact, our greatest personal potential lies just beyond these (and any other) assumptions.

Of course, I know, that can be so annoying to hear.

I promise you, it's been equally annoying for me to actually LIVE.

Still, living with our defenses down takes ongoing work; it's not simply a switch to be flipped.

No, it's a motherfucking practice of presence, honesty, choice, and compassion for myself and others. Especially when it's so much easier--and often enticing--to pursue being "right" or justified in my resentment and judgments.

Whether partnered, solo, or exploring a network of connections, what we actually need at deep levels is much more universal than we may think: We want to matter to others; we want our suffering to make sense; we want to live on our own terms. We deserve all this. We really do. And so much more--but are we willing to work for it? 

I believe that our deepest wounds are the pathways to our highest aspirations. If we desire fulfilling sex and connections, there's no escaping the challenges that will arise. Our established relationships as well as our searches for new relationships will absolutely highlight these wounds. That's a guarantee. But when we open our hearts to the pain, we make it possible to grow in surprising ways. 

Recently, I've been asked by a few clients to experiment with my coaching model. As a result, I've experimented with how to make myself more available than a traditional one-session-at-a-time approach. I've realized that I enjoy being more involved via phone, text, and email with clients who need resources, practices, and check-ins as a part of their growth processes outside our scheduled session times. In this new model, consider me a relationship personal assistant, helping you through critical phases of change in your relationship(s) or dating life. Together, we will consider how your struggles are also connected to a personal growth path.

Even if you'd like a less involved approach, I am here to support you into the next version of yourself via traditional session work, readings, instructional video material, and upcoming group events. 
 

Explore 

Which relationship structure is right for me?

Craft unique, mutual agreements about sexuality and eroticism, no matter which relationship structure you choose.

Use self-pleasure to uplift your sexual relationship(s) with others.

Practice effective boundaries.

Manage triggers.

Have important difficult conversations. 

Frame conflict to maximize personal growth and access deeper closeness.

Learn skills to be a better lover.

Deepen commitment.

Accelerate a sense of individuality and authenticity.

Effectively harness resistance and resentment, tapping into growth.

Learn the art of Intentional Erotic Reconditioning: partnered or solo.


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