UPCOMING EVENTS
A variety of virtual events are periodically offered to partake in from the safety and comfort of home.
Finn facilities at a variety of in-person events in the San Francisco Bay Area, Los Angeles, New York City, Philadelphia, and Nevada City.
Devotion
Devotion 2025 - In Person Retreat
Explore a transformative fusion of Tantra and BDSM, fostering growth, intimacy, and empowerment in a unique retreat for GBTQ men.
Hosted by Davey Wavey, Finn Deerhart, and Court Vox, deepen your understanding of self, forge meaningful connections, and embrace the rich tapestry of pleasure and self-discovery in a supportive and judgment-free environment.
Day 1: Arrivals, Opening, Connection
Opening Ceremony: During opening ceremony we will go over agreements and guidelines, as well as set the container for our time together. All participants must be present for Opening Ceremony.
In addition, Davey Wavey will host "Dessert with Davey" wherein we'll discuss topics in a fireside chat with a Q&A.
Day 2: Tantra Foundations
Tantra Philosophy: Delve into the core principles of Tantra and its application to modern sexuality.
Breathwork and Meditation: Explore mindful practices to enhance connection with oneself and others.
Touch: Learn the art of sensual and intentional touch for heightened awareness.
In addition, Davey Wavey will host "Dessert with Davey" wherein we'll discuss topics in a fireside chat with a Q&A.
Day 3: BDSM Exploration
BDSM Basics: Provide a comprehensive understanding of BDSM, emphasizing safety, consent, and communication.
Workshops on Various Kinks: Interactive sessions to explore different aspects of BDSM, from bondage to sensory play, with an emphasis on power exchange.
Practical Demonstrations: Experienced practitioners guide participants through safe and consensual BDSM scenes.
In addition, Davey Wavey will host "Dessert with Davey" wherein we'll discuss topics in a fireside chat with a Q&A.
Day 4: Integration and Celebration
Tantra-BDSM Fusion: Explore the harmonious integration of Tantra principles into BDSM practices.
Rituals and Ceremonies: Create meaningful rituals to celebrate newfound awareness and connections.
Closing Circle: Reflect on the transformative journey, share insights, and express gratitude.
Throughout the retreat:
Expert Facilitators: Experienced leaders in Tantra and BDSM provide guidance and support.
Safe Enough and Inclusive Space: Foster an atmosphere of acceptance, respect, and confidentiality.
Each night, Davey Wavey will be hosting "Dessert with Davey" which will include a fireside chat and Q&As.
*****ALL WORKSHOPS ARE SUBJECT TO CHANGE*****
Suggested Readings: ManTantra Letters, Radical Ecstasy, and BDSM 101.
FINN DEERHART is an AASECT Certified Sexuality Counselor who guides gay and queer men in embracing their eroticism and authentic selves. Raised in a restrictive religious setting, his journey through ministry and self-acceptance led to a transformative exploration of personal truth. Through workshops, sessions, and content creation, Finn confronts societal conditioning and empowers others to dismantle shame, fostering deeper connections.
COURT VOX is a Certified Sex & Intimacy Coach who supports individuals and couples seeking deeper intimacy. He caters to both beginners and seasoned seekers, offering personalized, exclusive experiences and workshops worldwide. As a member of the World Association of Sex Coaches and founder of The Bodyvox, Court's expertise extends from guiding first-timers gently to collaborating with renowned sex educators globally, including programs like Back to the Body.
Up to 54 men will attend Devotion: A Himeros Retreat. You'll be working in smaller groups alongside coaches Finn Deerhart, Court Vox and their assistants. While many of these workshops involve sensual touch, everyone will have the opportunity to work within their boundaries. Your "yes" and "no" will be honored.
This retreat is not a sex party or orgy; it is an opportunity to respectfully explore your sexuality, grow and evolve.
WHAT'S INCLUDED
Your ticket includes workshops, lodging and delicious meals for the duration of the retreat. You'll be able to select from different accommodation levels depending on preference and budget. You'll also have access to Easton Mountain's grounds including the wood-fired sauna. Airport transfers and airfare are not included.
CANCELLATION POLICY
You'll receive a 50% refund if you cancel AT LEAST four months prior to the start date. If you cancel within four months of the start date, no refund will be given. This is because we've made financial commitments on your behalf to the venue, chefs and teachers for this event.
PERSONAL BEHAVIOR
Devotion: A Himeros Retreat will not tolerate any form of inappropriate befhavior. If you are making an unsafe environment for the teachers, staff or participants, you may be asked to leave without refund.
GETTING THERE
Devotion: A Himeros Retreat takes place at Easton Mountain Retreat Center just north of Albany, NY. If you plan on driving, there is plenty of free on-site parking. If you plan on flying or taking the train, we recommend arriving in Albany - and then booking an Uber or taxi.
Queer Men's Cuddle Party
A playful, group exploration of intimate connection for anybody identifying as a man—gay, bi, pan, trans, queer, and hetero-flexible. It is a substance-free, facilitated event.
Nourishing touch is a cornerstone of connection, whether sexual or nonsexual. We likely have many ways to acquire sex. However, our needs for touch and connection range widely from the explicitly erotic to gentle and nurturing. We believe there is a powerful need in the queer community to share this entire spectrum of touch—not just sex as a means of connection. Come with another(s) or solo. No prior experience is necessary, just an open heart.
This event will NOT include full nudity.
You will have the opportunity to connect with multiple others throughout the evening, sharing intentional, intimate touch.
Learn exercises to tap into your embodied wisdom and innate capacity for connection.
Practice communicating boundaries and consent.
Explore alongside other men without pressure to hook up or perform.
Upon purchase of a ticket, you will receive a follow-up email with event information and location. We have included a few tickets for donation if cost is a challenge.
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What to expect:
Doors open at 6:30 pm and close at 7 pm sharp. We’ll have an opening circle to create our container and set agreements. Then we’ll share some fun exercises to bring the group together, out of our heads and fully into our bodies.
The rest of the evening will be an open space to talk, share touch, and connect. There will be multiple stations including a large, open cuddle space, massage tables, and a tea bar.
We encourage you to be courageous and ask for the touch that fulfills you. We will be vibing out to sexy music in an awesome event space.
Snacks and nonalcoholic drinks will be provided. Sensuality is absolutely encouraged, but clothing will stay on.
Between 9:30 and 9:45 pm we will glide toward a conclusion, with a departure no later than 10 pm.
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CONNECT: San Francisco
Court Vox & Finn Deerhart are excited to continue offering this non-residential three-day experience, designed to give men (gay, queer, bi-sexual, and trans men) the opportunity to connect deeper to the pleasure and knowing in their own bodies, as well as to a growing collective community.
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Following payment, please e-mail Bridgette at assistant@thebodyvox.com to arrange an intro call. Please see REFUND POLICY POSTED AT BOTTOM OF PAGE.
To book your place, click here
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We’ve been taught to imagine sexuality bound to the spaces in which it emerges. Our culture presents an assumed, collective judgment that suggests hookups and casual encounters as routes to sexual liberation while long-term partnerships offer deeper intimacy and growth. We know these stories well, because they are ingrained in how we think about sex. Truly, what is possible has less to do with where and more to do with how we CONNECT with the various parts of our own psyches and bodies, because when we apply education, awareness, and consciousness to our experiences, we unlock the secrets that allow us to integrate our sexuality. We believe that intimacy is possible in the bathhouse just as much as liberation is available in partnership. All portals to erotic expression can be expansive and valuable. Join Court and Finn as guides and fellow travelers along your erotic journeys.
This is our invitation:
Back by demand, we are offering a non-residential, three-day experience, designed to give men (gay, queer, bi-sexual, and trans) the opportunity to connect with the deeper centers of bodily pleasure. Through movement, sound, breathing, and touch, access and sustain full-body erotic pleasure with self and/or partners. Explore the varied states of erotic energy through playful, fun, safe-enough, and sacred spaces.
We are creating a collective, embodied space to facilitate your vulnerability and capacity for pleasure. Access your deeper emotions and desires. Share in a non-judgmental space about your ongoing challenges in an evolving queer culture. Process how being alive in this time shapes your relationship to your erotic bodies. Playfully give and receive. Release trauma. Explore the possibility of full-body orgasm. Call the Erotic into all aspects of your life.
Workshop activities and themes
Conscious Touch Techniques
Learn new techniques and gain communication skills to give and receive erotic and sensual touch.
Tantric Connection
Learn practices to connect with your partner through eye gazing, sound, and breath.
Ceremony & Ritual
Explore new ways of creating erotic invitations with intention and context.
Power, Surrender, Intimacy
Explore dynamics of Power (Dominance and Submission) through energy exchange, language, and physical touch.
Group Erotic Practice
Feel into the experience of sharing erotic energy with a group of other conscious men.
Sensation Play & Exploration
Explore the range of sensations and discover new paths to pleasure in a safe enough container.
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Following payment, please e-mail Bridgette at assistant@thebodyvox.com to arrange an intro call. Please see REFUND POLICY POSTED BELOW TICKET LINK.
To book your place, click here
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$700 for the entire weekend--This workshop is Non-Residential
Partial Scholarships are available. Please inquire via email: assistant@thebodyvox.com
Terms and Conditions for The Body Vox/Finn Deerhart
**A 50% deposit is nonrefundable.
**For payment plans, email: assistant@thebodyvox.com. If accepted, you must agree to a payment plan within 5 business days from the time you deposited and secured your spot for a workshop. Payments and deposits are subject to our terms and conditions. Remaining balances for workshops are due in full, on or before April 5, 2023 Once final payment has been made, please note there are NO REFUNDS on this program.
**We strongly encourage Trip Insurance to cover your deposit and payments, as this entire payment is non-refundable.
**An invoice with payment plan options will be e-mailed to you, and payment can be made online with a credit card or through your bank account. Once we receive your payment we will send you a formal Registration Confirmation with further information about the program.
**You will receive 2-3 other correspondences by email prior to the workshop with further details about the event and how best to prepare.
Almost Naked: A Tantric Date Night for Queer Men
A playful, group exploration of intimate connection for anybody identifying as a man—gay, bi, pan, trans, queer, and hetero-fluid.
Tantra Coach Training Program 2023
Finn & Jason co-lead a multi-discipline training program for healing arts practitioners, bodyworkers, and Tantric coaches of all kinds.
Tantra Coach Training will give you the techniques, experiences, and practices that have been integrated with therapeutic models of understanding and intervention.
What will I get from this training?
Feel confident to effectively and skilfully hold erotic space for others.
Understand how to channel erotic energy into rituals.
Offer Tantra techniques to others, drawing on practiced and personal experience.
Learn a full range of practices to facilitate healing for others.
Skilfully facilitate ecstatic Tantric states.
Feel confident to hold space for others as they deepen their own embodied wisdom and healing.
More info and tickets
Touch: Los Angeles
A three-day, non-residential experience, designed to give men (gay, queer, bi-sexual, and trans) the opportunity to learn how to engage in conversation through the nuance of conscious touch, all while fostering our growing collective community.
Erotic Massage Techniques
Learn specific techniques for giving and receiving erotic massage.
Tantric Principles
Guided by a non-linear approach to learning and an eye for experimentation, learn to invite curiosity, presence, and attention to be cornerstones in your erotic journey.
Self Pleasure Practice
Explore and Create new neuro-pathways to pleasuring your own body, while being held in the energy of conscious community.
Tension & Release
Explore the intimate and innate power of tension and release. Learn to utilize this dynamic to create heightened somatic and cerebral experiences, through physical touch, energy, and language.
Power, Surrender, Intimacy
Continue to delve deeper into BDSM principles and how to use them to create experiences that push your physical and emotional boundaries in a consensual and informed practice that tantalizes and inspires.
Sensation Play & Exploration
Continue to practice utilizing a wide range of sensations to deepen the understanding of your body and heighten your pleasure potential.
Connect: San Francisco, May 5th-7th, 2023
With the success of workshops in Los Angeles and abroad, a non-residential three-day experience, designed to give men (gay, queer, bi-sexual, and trans men) the opportunity to connect deeply to the pleasure and knowledge in their own bodies, as well as to a growing collective community,
Connect: Los Angeles, Feb 17th-19th, 2023
Back by demand, a non-residential three-day experience, designed to give men (gay, queer, bi-sexual, and trans men) the opportunity to connect deeply to pleasure and knowledge in their own bodies, as well as to a growing collective community.
On Sale Now**Tantra Coach Training
Finn & Jason Tantra will co-lead a multi-discipline training program for healing arts practitioners, bodyworkers, and Tantric coaches of all kinds.
Transform your eroticism into space-holding of profound depth for yourself and others.
Tantra Coach Training will give you the techniques, experiences, and practices that have been integrated with therapeutic models of understanding and intervention.
In this program, you will learn how to transform your eroticism into space-holding of profound depth for yourself and others with:
Practices
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Techniques
Exercises
Processes
Embodying Desire 5-Part Series: Bridging the Mind & Body
Getting out of your head and into your body is possible and practicable!
This 5-week ONLINE workshop will occur on Wednesday evenings beginning May 19th, 7-9pm PST and concludes on June 16th, 7-9pm PST.
This Embodying Desire course has been designed for male-identified queer beings in relationships of various configurations: boyfriends, partners, fuck-buddies, and poly-pods. ***Each couple, pod, or set of buddies only needs to purchase one ticket for all involved individuals to participate together.
You will discover a specific set of skills that build upon each other each successive Wednesday evening. These skills are useful to expand sexual ranges in-and-out of our relationships, leading to hotter sex and greater intimacy at the same time. The key to our authenticity in sex is how we use our bodies to communicate our inner erotic thoughts and feelings. Here are some areas we will cover:
*Integrate the need to fantasize into the shared moment together.
*Get past the fear of discussing desires and fantasies with your partner(s).
*Break through inhibitions for more peak experiences.
*Shake up boring routines, erotic scripts, and monotonous sex.
*Identify underlying needs when pursuing sex.
*Create alignment between emotions & actions.
*Expand ranges of sexual expression.
*Recognize and encourage your partner’s erotic signals.
*Craft your own blueprint for an intentional self-practice & partner work.
NOTE: Please bring a journal or paper and something to write with, and wear comfortable clothing. This is a CLOTHING-ON, educational exploration of many themes that appear in the collective domain of queer desire. There will be a variety of suggested sexual playwork to do on your own or with your partner(s), and the workshop will include group processing, course instruction, and embodied exercises.
**Zoom link to each Wednesday workshop will be emailed 24-hours before the event begins!
Queer Men's Book Club with Finn & Sam
Join Finn & Sam in a bi-weekly book club via Tantra4GayMen. To join subscribe to the app and get involved with dozens of weekly workshops from a variety of teachers and backgrounds!
You may join the club at any time, even if you have not read the material. We spend adequate time discussing and connecting over the content as well as how it relates to our own lives.
This book club will be featuring Raymond Rigoglioso's book: Gay Men and the New Way Forward. Rigoglioso positions a key insight: that gay men offer unique gifts to the collective cultures in which they live. By working through our wounds of growing up as outsiders, we offer a precious vantage point that is needed for collective cultural transformation. Please acquire a copy of Rigoglioso book, either in paper or downloadable form.
The club meets via Zoom from the Tantra4GayMen app dashboard, every other week beginning Wednesday, January 6th, 2021 at 2 pm PST.
Re-Imagining Fantasy Workshop
Online | January 19th, 10-11:30 am PST
Sex is a function of body parts; Eroticism is a cultivated art. This workshop will help you deepen your sense of personal Eroticism.
To join, subscribe to the Tantra4GayMen app for access to this and dozens of additional weekly workshops!
In this workshop, you will uncover and expand upon some of your most compelling personal erotic scripts in order to promote a better understanding of yourself as an erotic being. This is an essential process that will likely enhance your fulfillment, satisfaction, and capacity to connect and enjoy hot sex that feels truly authentic– whether you are single or in a relationship.
This workshop will focus on the use of fantasy in order to:
*Locate the intrinsic archetypes that fuel your own personal quest for sex.
*Uncover shadow: power, politics, race, and disavowed emotions as accelerators.
*Break through inhibitions for more peak experiences.
*Interpret fantasy as a guide to your emotional needs & unlocking sexual potential.
*Craft your personal Erotic Theme, using the “Cornerstones of Eroticism,” work by Dr. Jack Morin.
NOTE: Please bring a journal or paper and something to write with. This is a CLOTHING-ON educational exploration of many themes that appear in the collective domain of queer desire.
Queer Men's Book Club with Finn & Sam
Join Finn & Sam in a bi-weekly book club via Tantra4GayMen. To join subscribe to the app and get involved with dozens of weekly workshops from a variety of teachers and backgrounds!
You may join the club at any time, even if you have not read the material. We spend adequate time discussing and connecting over the content as well as how it relates to our own lives.
This book club will be featuring Raymond Rigoglioso's book: Gay Men and the New Way Forward. Rigoglioso positions a key insight: that gay men offer unique gifts to the collective cultures in which they live. By working through our wounds of growing up as outsiders, we offer a precious vantage point that is needed for collective cultural transformation. Please acquire a copy of Rigoglioso book, either in paper or downloadable form.
The club meets via Zoom from the Tantra4GayMen app dashboard, every other week beginning Wednesday, January 6th, 2021 at 2 pm PST.
Re-Imagining Fantasy
In this workshop, you will uncover and expand upon some of your most compelling personal erotic scripts in order to promote a better understanding of yourself as an erotic being. This is an essential process that will likely enhance your fulfillment, satisfaction, and capacity to connect and enjoy hot sex that feels truly authentic– whether you are single or in a relationship of any kind.
The Himeros Experience 5-Day Retreat
Facilitated by sex coach Jason Tantra, join the Himeros.tv family for a transformative week of sexual evolution. You’ll connect with other gay and bisexual men through workshops, playshops, and fun activities to increase pleasure, build community, and evolve your experience of sex and sexuality. This retreat is for men of all ages (18+), shapes, sizes, and levels of experience. There will be no filming at this retreat.
Re-Imagining Fantasy
In this workshop, you will uncover and expand upon some of your most compelling personal erotic scripts in order to promote a better understanding of yourself as an erotic being. This is an essential process that will likely enhance your fulfillment, satisfaction, and capacity to connect and enjoy hot sex that feels truly authentic– whether you are single or in a relationship of any kind.
Queer Men’s Bi-Weekly Book Club with Finn & Sam
A new queer men’s bi-weekly book club with Finn & Sam begins on Monday, September 14th, at 1 pm PST, and every other week following. Come join a multi-generational group of men exploring the intersection of sex and spirit in queer life. Reading will be assigned each week for the following meeting. This cycle of Book Club will be featuring Walt Odets’s Out of the Shadows: Reimagining Gay Men’s Lives.
Elements of Desire: Integrating Love & Lust for Boyfriends & Fuck-Buddies
This 4-hour Zoom workshop will occur on August 22nd, 10-2pm PST. This particular Elements of Desire class has been designed for male-identified queer beings in relationships–boyfriends, partners, fuck-buddies, and poly-pods. ***Each couple, pod, or set of buddies only needs to purchase one ticket for all individuals involved together.
Re-Imagining Fantasy 4-Part Series for Queer Men
This 4-part online Zoom workshop will occur weekly in July: Wednesday evenings from 7-8:30pm Pacific Time (July 1, 8, 15, 22) and is for male-identified gay and queer beings. General admission tickets + limited supply of donation only tickets. The one-time ticket purchase fee is for all 4 workshops in the series.
Connections Festival Online
The Connections Festival Online brings together an eclectic program of stimulating workshops, talks and discussions, as well as virtual tea breaks and hangout time for you to meet other attendees, make connections and have fun!
Diploma in Tantra: Ecstasy & Orgasm
“Set in the desert landscape of Joshua Tree, 45 mins outside Palm Springs you’ll join 18 sexy men in a week-long journey and discovery of Tantra. Your programme starts at 8 am and finishes at around 10.30 pm each day. Your days are filled with Tantric Meditations, Tantric Practices of 10,000 volts of Ecstasy coursing through your body, Extended Tantra Massage to give you the energy to lift off into superspace … moving, heart felt moments of deep connection, and Love, love beyond anything you may have already felt. Group Spiritual Enquiry to work through what comes up for you and Tantric Rituals that will leave you in tears with an open and vulnerable heart. Come and join us for probably one of the most profound experiences of your life.”
Ultimate Tantric Massage for Queer Men
The Ultimate Tantric Massage is the way to experience a mind-blowing orgasm that you feel throughout your entire body, one that takes you to the heights of pleasure. If you are looking to reignite your sexual body, then you must join us for this weekend workshop.
The Himeros Experience – Virtual Retreat
Facilitated by sex & intimacy coach Finn Deerhart, join Himeros.tv on a day-long virtual retreat with some of your favorite porn stars including Adam Ramzi, Max Adonis and Andre Donovan. We will explore erotic tools to help you have better and hotter gay sex including:
The Lavender Spirit Webinar
In this lighthearted conversation Finn Deerhart, Darren Main, and The Rev. Jude Harmon will explore the diverse, welcoming, and compassionate spirituality being discovered by gay men everywhere.
Ritual & Tantric Sex
This workshop takes you through a unique array of sensual, playful, and occasionally mind-blowing exercises that are all designed to heighten your sexual awareness and arousal. Through lots of sensual massage, meditation, and a number of rituals unique to tantra, you will be able to discover a side of yourself you never knew existed.
Queer Men’s Cuddle Puddle
Our Cuddle Puddle is a social gathering designed to facilitate loving, intimate, and sensual touch with an awesome group of people. It’s an intentionally created, nonsexual space in which you can learn and practice communicating boundaries and consent and various ways to explore touch.
Touching From Your Heart: An Intro To Esalen Massage For Gay Couples
Physical touch is one of our most important innate needs. Whether you are lovers or good friends, come explore intimacy through touch. Join Sam Sebastian for a weekend retreat at a BEAUTIFUL cabin near Lake Oroville as we explore how to listen with our hearts and hands, how to ask for needs, and how to communicate skillfully through touch.
Love & Lust – Sex & Spirituality
In this special 4-hour workshop, you will learn practical tools to have more fulfilling, satisfying connections and hot sex that feels truly authentic, whether you are single or in relationship.
The Lavender Spirit
In this lighthearted conversation Finn Deerhart, Darren Main, and The Rev. Jude Harmon will explore the diverse, welcoming, and compassionate spirituality being discovered by gay men everywhere.
Conversations with Queer Tribe
A Series Of Real-Time 45 Minute Conversations
Each call Kirk and Donny will interview a queer thought leader, elder shaman, spiritual teacher, or change agent. This call will be on September 19th at 6 pm PST.
The Queer Tribe calls will connect you with queer healers and change agents exploring ways to step up and step out. We seek to answer, “who are we?”, “what’s next?” and “what are we doing here as a Queer Tribe?”